Overcome Anger

Overcoming AngerThis may be hard to believe but there was a time in my not so long ago life where I experienced many bouts with deep anger. When I found myself firmly planted in that space full of rage I felt completely outside of my own body. It was as if I was watching a slow motion film of my appalling behavior and found myself unable to stop it. When I would yell I could see the veins coming out of my neck and my blood would feel hot, my head light and foggy. I would throw fists and random objects at anything in my way and watch as hideous words escaped my lips.

The episodes where short but numerous, each one more draining than the last. I was left feeling empty and numb, in mental and physical pain and discomfort. Eventually I would break down mid-shower or while running an errand and experience guilt and shame and most of all, overwhelming disappointment. It was in one of these moments of numbness and shame that I decided to understand and overcome what it was that had a hold on me and my emotions.

Why did I feel so angry and out of control?

When our heads are rattling around in those dark, anger-filled places, finding your way out can seem almost impossible. But it is in this moment where we have the most power. When we connect with the harshest parts of ourselves we only have one great new place to go to, up and out.

Releasing our anger brings us an inner peace that allows us to create a more wholesome, joyful life. It is with one single, committed decision that we can prevail over this now tired habit. The moment you decide to live as your authentically happy self (I know you are in there) is the moment you set ourself free.

So, I know this sounds simple and you’re probably wondering how in the world you can move from wanting to lunge for the throat of those you love the most one minute to peacefully smiling and flowing. Well, like with everything else, there’s a process.

Start with this: let yourself off the hook. So you have memories of experiences that you aren’t necessarily proud of. So your family and friends have stories to tell about how insane you’ve behaved when angry in the past. The key to all this is accepting that all of those experiences and emotions and behaviors are in the past. Your power is in the here and now, not in the way-back-when. Bring your attention to the new, in the present, you. It definitely makes a big difference when you can forgive and feel compassion for yourself. This will not be a one time deal. You will become a master at self-forgiveness. Practice, practice, practice.

It’s time to take it to the next level: assessment. You want to get knee-deep and comfortable in what triggers your anger. Treat yourself to a notebook (for those of you who are paper-averse, the notes app on your phone works too). There is no need for a long winded, wordy, emotional journal entry. In fact, keep it short and sweet. You want to log three simple things:

  1. What triggered the anger
  2. At the moment you identified that you were angry, where in your body did you feel it?
  3. On a scale from 1-10, how intense was it?

You are keeping this as a way to understand where you are-not as a way to log how bad you are at not being angry (see above: let yourself off the hook). Seeing the patterns written out in front of you makes it easier to know where you are and where you are going.

Now that you have clarity of what’s triggering you, what do you do? Easy peasy: adopt a meditation routine that you are excited to implement on a daily basis. I know I just lost some of you but please come back. When many of us with few (or zero) meditation hours under our belt hear the word meditation we picture someone in a robe or at the very least, yoga pants, sitting cross legged under a tree, calmly breathing and floating three inches off the earth. I got two words for you: baby steps. Start with five minutes a day. Spend this time breathing into the parts of the body where you felt your anger that day, imagine letting it go-literally visualize anger leaving your body. Keep a 1-10 scale on the side of your mind and practice bringing that number all the way to one as you release the anger.

Lastly, remember you are not alone. Ask for help from people in your life. If you don’t have helpful and compassionate people in your life yet, go meet some. They are everywhere, many are online. Find a YouTube channel with meditation videos you like or look for an intro to meditation class. They are out there, many resources are free.

We are always here to help, just a phone call or comment away. Book your complimentary consultation or visit us at our free workshops. You can uncover the roots of the matter and recover a happy, successful you.

Renewing Love

 

Renewing LoveSo it’s Valentine’s day today – is it bringing up old memories? New ones? Small glimpses into the person you used to be. Perhaps it was a word, or a look, or even a scent that ignited that old memory to pop into your mind: the memories of being head-over-heels in love. That time when all you could think about was them. Your person. And you thought: This is it.

Whether you go all out today and hire a Mariachi band to serenade your sweetheart (yeah – you know who you are) or you tell everyone that this is just another Hallmark holiday, love is in the air. But we all know love isn’t about chocolates and lingerie. Love is a state of mind we either cultivate and enjoy or we gradually disconnect from.

Many of us in long term relationships have moved past the giddy honeymoon stage and are knee deep in familiarity. Summoning those belly butterflies can be an act of deliberate effort. Our personal and work environments are constantly moving and changing. There are times that we move so quickly trying to keep up that we forget what connecting with our senses feels like. We forget what “being in love” feels like. So why not implement these simple steps and reconnect with that innate love and excitement:

  1. Sit in silence and let your mind wander over to a memory of feeling deeply in love. Remember this memory with each of your senses. What did that moment look, smell, taste, sound, and feel like?
  2. Take one sense at a time and truly savor it. Notice how your body feels and what emotions come up.
  3. Plan some time with your romantic partner doing something together for just a few minutes and experience your senses together. Make it deliberate and familiar. It could be making love or  even walking for five minutes holding hands. It doesn’t really matter what you’re doing as long as you’re together practicing the same intention: to reconnect.

We fall in love in the moments in which we are most present. Be present with your loved one so your mind relearns to scan every moment for all that is wonderful. You will quickly start to remember why you chose this person to love in the first place.

It can take some effort to step out of the familiar and into romance and sensuality. So, this Valentine’s day, retrain your mind to fall in love with everything: with yourself, your partner, your job, and your environment.

The decision to renew your love is a testament of your strength and your commitment to happiness. Remember that you’re not alone and it’s absolutely okay to ask for help! Reach out to your favorite hypnotist to start renewing the love in your life today!

From Critic To Cheerleader: Revise Your Negative Thinking

 

Overcome Negative ThinkingThe idea that we are our “own worst critic” is so commonly accepted that it’s almost a cliche. There’s plenty of reasons/excuses/stories as to why we speak so harshly towards ourselves. Maybe the negative voice in your head sounds a lot like your mother. Perhaps when you let yourself dream, the “old you that failed before” interrupts with evidence of why you can’t make it work. For all you know, the negative talk is something that has been there for so long now that you’ve forgotten that it’s not the natural order of things. Continue reading “From Critic To Cheerleader: Revise Your Negative Thinking”

New Year, Greater Business Focus

 

growing businessAs we ring in the new year, many of us find ourselves reevaluating and reinventing our habits, mindsets, and businesses. We begin to set short- and long-term goals all in the hopes of maximizing our happiness and prosperity for the next 12 months. While this is a helpful practice in creating focus and goals in our personal life, it can prove especially helpful when it applies to our businesses. How so?

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Your Dark and Your Light

Your Dark &As little kids in science class we learned that darkness is the absence of light, a seemingly simple and obvious definition. Over the years, we go on collecting more and more definitions, rarely giving them a second thought. It is not until life grows a little more complicated and we grow a little older that we begin finding comfort in such simple, yet thoughtful, explanations. As we are stretched and as we evolve, we recycle this information, rarely re-exploring their meaning or their application.

So what of our personal darkness then? Everyone of us has endured periods of heaviness and negativity at some point in our lives. Truly overcoming these moments comes through the realization that when we focus our attention on the pain can only  multiply the darkness. When we unconsciously (or deliberately) cling to our anger and our grudges, we being to attract circumstances and people that are equally as resentful and cynical. We attract what we are, after all.

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LGBTQ Support

LGBTQ supportDo you find yourself in an environment that refuses to accept your identity simply because it challenges the norm? Are you struggling with an inner dialogue that criticizes and shames any honest expression of yourself? Perhaps you’re in constant search of a validation, even a small reason, to believe you’re enough.

If any of this resonates with you: It’s time to step into your truth.

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How Does Hypnosis support Weight Reduction? 

weight lossGrowing research indicates that medical hypnosis supports long-term weight loss. One such study demonstrated that hypnosis was an effective adjunct to weight management. Published in the Journal of Clinical Psychology, the study suggested that clients who subscribed to hypnotherapy not only lost the weight, but continued to lose weight up to two years after the hypnosis treatment ended!

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Hypnosis & Smoking: Does It Work? 

Smoking CessationWill Hypnosis to Quit Smoking Work?

Quitting a smoking habit can be intensely challenging for some. Many attempt to quit and then fall back into the dangerous habit. If you’ve tried nicotine patches, counseling, prescription medication, or behavioral modification techniques and are still struggling to quit smoking, it may be time to consider hypnosis.

 

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Co-dependence: Self-Fulfillment or Self-Loathing

codependencyWho do we call on when the going gets rough? When we picture packing up our things and getting out of dodge, where do we see ourselves dropping those bags? The truth is, we make the comfortable call and have no clue what dodge does or doesn’t look like. Maybe it’s 6’3 with blonde hair, blue eyes and a nasty habit of self-loathing. Or maybe it used to swaddle and breast feed us. Whatever the circumstances are, the reality of the matter is that many times we forget that home is where the heart is and the heart is on the inside.

 

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