So it’s Valentine’s day today – is it bringing up old memories? New ones? Small glimpses into the person you used to be. Perhaps it was a word, or a look, or even a scent that ignited that old memory to pop into your mind: the memories of being head-over-heels in love. That time when all you could think about was them. Your person. And you thought: This is it.
Whether you go all out today and hire a Mariachi band to serenade your sweetheart (yeah – you know who you are) or you tell everyone that this is just another Hallmark holiday, love is in the air. But we all know love isn’t about chocolates and lingerie. Love is a state of mind we either cultivate and enjoy or we gradually disconnect from.
Many of us in long term relationships have moved past the giddy honeymoon stage and are knee deep in familiarity. Summoning those belly butterflies can be an act of deliberate effort. Our personal and work environments are constantly moving and changing. There are times that we move so quickly trying to keep up that we forget what connecting with our senses feels like. We forget what “being in love” feels like. So why not implement these simple steps and reconnect with that innate love and excitement:
- Sit in silence and let your mind wander over to a memory of feeling deeply in love. Remember this memory with each of your senses. What did that moment look, smell, taste, sound, and feel like?
- Take one sense at a time and truly savor it. Notice how your body feels and what emotions come up.
- Plan some time with your romantic partner doing something together for just a few minutes and experience your senses together. Make it deliberate and familiar. It could be making love or even walking for five minutes holding hands. It doesn’t really matter what you’re doing as long as you’re together practicing the same intention: to reconnect.
We fall in love in the moments in which we are most present. Be present with your loved one so your mind relearns to scan every moment for all that is wonderful. You will quickly start to remember why you chose this person to love in the first place.
It can take some effort to step out of the familiar and into romance and sensuality. So, this Valentine’s day, retrain your mind to fall in love with everything: with yourself, your partner, your job, and your environment.
The decision to renew your love is a testament of your strength and your commitment to happiness. Remember that you’re not alone and it’s absolutely okay to ask for help! Reach out to your favorite hypnotist to start renewing the love in your life today!